Online dating. The assumption that anyone who goes through the trouble of signing up, creating a profile, uploading pictures, and in some cases, paying a fee, said person is interested in making connections. With another person. As in, a fellow human being. And since none of us are telepathic, we need to communicate.
There should be a warning before reading profiles. Warning: scrolling through these profiles may induce eye-rolling and headshaking. There should also be a warning to manage expectations when going through photo galleries.
I’m ready to get back into the dating game. I purposely called it a game because that’s exactly what it feels like. I’ve been on and off dating apps since my twenties. These men claim they want relationships, but their behavior says otherwise. I don’t want to go back to an app, but there’s no other way for me to put myself out there. Even when we were allowed to roam about freely, I had to resort to apps. I was not meeting The One at the grocery store, subway, bookstore, movies, concerts, book signings, plays, comedy shows, Brooklyn Bridge, doctor/dentist office, work, Greyhound, Amtrak, Lyft share, JFK airport or other places.
She was the second woman to ever break my heart. Not in a romantic way. The first was my mother when she left—my preferred terminology of her losing her battle to cancer when I was eight. Nearly twenty years later, my closest friend left. But she didn’t die. She left. Disappeared. I was the one who almost died. Not because she left. She left when I almost died. Our friendship had been unraveling for about two years anyway, but it […]
Handbook for an Unpredictable Life: How I Survived Sister Renata and My Crazy Mother, and Still Came Out Smiling by Rosie Pérez My rating: 4 of 5 stars I was completely in shock and awe throughout Rosie Perez’s memoir Handbook for an Unpredictable Life: How I Survived Sister Renata and My Crazy Mother, and Still Came Out Smiling (with Great Hair). I knew Perez as a sassy Nuyorican dancer, choreographer and actress, and was not prepared for what she shared […]
Queen Sugar by Natalie Baszile My rating: 5 of 5 stars Queen Sugar hadn’t been anywhere on my radar until I started catching promotions for its television series adaptation on Oprah’s network OWN. As the first season of Greenleaf was winding down, commercials said that if viewers liked Greenleaf they would love Queen Sugar. When I learned Ava DuVernay, director of Middle of Nowhere and Selma, was helming the adaptation, I couldn’t wait for the series to begin. With the […]
If Someone Says You Complete Me, RUN!: Whoopi’s Big Book of Relationships by Whoopi Goldberg My rating: 2 of 5 stars Whoopi Goldberg’s If Someone Says “You Complete Me,” RUN!: Whoopi’s Big Book of Relationships is part memoir, part dating and relationship advice. In between sprinklings of sage guidance (read: common sense), Goldberg shares that she speaks from experience. Married and divorced three times, she learned the hard way to listen to her inner voice, which was telling her that […]
Two of my favorite shows attacked the issue of racism in the workplace last week. (The post is late because I watched the DVR recordings only recently.) While I wasn’t surprised to see it addressed on BET’s Being Mary Jane starring Gabrielle Union, I was pleasantly surprised to see it unfurl on ABC’s Grey’s Anatomy, in an episode called “Something Against You.” One of the great things about Grey’s Anatomy is the multicultural cast and blended relationships of all sorts: […]